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Dos and Dont’s (October Edition)

Hello Friends! We are back again with our October rendition of “Dos and Don’ts.”  Remember in August, I mentioned that we would be skipping the month of September because it was a really busy month for me and I had to take a few weeks off to get married and vacation properly.  Well, time moves […]

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My Travels to Cuba

WHAT WAS REQUIRED OF US: Passport (Proof of citizenship) Visa (Permits entry in to a country) $75/person Travel Affidavit WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW: I do want to emphasize that we traveled to Cuba via a cruise ship and once we arrived to the Port of Tampa we were given our Visa’s.  Completion of the […]

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Ladies, Love Yourself

Loving ourselves is something that women, especially, often have a hard time doing.  Of course we all say that we love ourselves, but do our actions truly show that? How many times have we put a man before our needs or before our children?  How many times have you allowed The D (and you know […]

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Life happens and then what?

Typically, this blog is fun and light-hearted.  Sometimes it’s even sassy and mischievous. To be honest, I love all of that about this blog but I must be real and say that sometimes, LIFE HAPPENS! We find ourselves living our “Best Life” and suddenly we are faced with what looks like turmoil.  Not just with […]

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Hello…..are you still there?

Testing, 1, 2, 3, 4…..(taps on mic)…….Mic Check 1! Hey There!!! I am super-duper excited to be back with all of you.  As you all are aware, my last post “At last….my love has come along” announced that I was getting married and therefore needed to take a small hiatus from blogging in order to […]

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At Last….My love has come along!

Hey loves! Many of you may or may not know, that I am getting married ❤ The official wedding day is Sunday, September 2, 2018.  I’m excited and nervous for my contemporary, non-traditional, glammed wedding!!  I just hope everything goes smoothly lol.  After that we are heading to a tropical honeymoon in Cuba and Mexico!  […]

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Why Home Chef* wasn’t for me?

*ADDENDUM: Earlier today I posted this blog with incorrect information. The company I used was Home Chef and NOT HelloFresh. So, as you read any references towards HelloFresh should be redirected to Home Chef* -Toya ——- Around this time last year, I had been bombarded with the idea that meal kit services could make my […]

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Just Keep Climbing! (Picture blog)

Recently, we (my fiance’, myself, and friends from out-of-town) decided to go on a hike.  I really didn’t know what I was getting myself into but I was determined to give it a shot. Being that I live in the valley, mountains are literally in my backyard. This particular mountain peaks at 3,197 feet.  The […]

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Dos and Don’ts (July Edition)

I cannot believe it’s July!  Kids are in full summer mode and vacations are happening every week.  The days are longer and it’s hot.  Time flies when you’re having fun and with that being said, that brings us to our “Dos and Don’ts” for July. Shana:  Give to give, not to receive… if you give […]

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“Would it be ok if your spouse went on vacation with their ex?”

Recently, in mainstream media, most of you have heard about Jada Pinkett-Smith discussing her relationship with her husband, Will Smith; along with conversations around her children, her Bonus child, and his mother.  If you are like me, you may even tune in occasionally to her Red Table Talk show that airs on Facebook Live. Let me be the […]

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I’m Wishing on a Dream…

In today’s post, I want you–yes you–to take a deep breath, close your eyes, and just day-dream for a minute or two.  Let your imagination take you on a journey that perhaps you haven’t traveled along in many years. One thing I love about children, they never forfeit the opportunity to imagine or daydream.  They […]

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Dos and Don’ts (June Edition)

Hey guys! For a second I thought we weren’t going to have the June edition of Dos and Don’t due to my partner, Shana (who collabs with me for this specific segment of Itoja) being busy and enjoying herself on vacation. But like always she has come through and has yet to let us down. She’s […]

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How “woke” are you?

“The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.” ~ Malcolm X Just how “woke” are you?  The term “being woke” stems from the ideology of being aware and informed from a sociological aspect.  […]

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The Purge by way of Poshmark!

Back in January I started my journey of letting go.  But this letting go was a little different than usual.  This letting go required me to face reality and my closet.  For a woman this can be dramatic.  We all keep things entirely too long.  We’ll buy a pair of shoes and wear them once and they will never […]

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I’m Guilty……..and loving it.

As I carefully sip my Lime Spritzer…… I’m guilty of : Eating in Bed. Staying up too late and then oversleeping. Missing a month of working out. Having 30 bottles of wine (I’m working on my collection). Browsing the internet at work. Being too hard on myself at times. Binge watching TV Shows. Skipping meals. […]

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Waterworks

Every year we take my grandmother to the casino for a ladies weekend trip.  My grandmother, my mother, two aunts, my sister, and of course, yours truly: ME!  Going to the casino is one of my grandmothers favorite things to do.  So we always make sure she gets to enjoy that at least once a […]

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Dear Momma

In a world of dismay and uncertainty, our mothers are our backbone and strength.  They are able to bring us laughter and joy and direction when needed. From the day we are born they’ve nurtured and protected us.  Their daily prayers as we’ve traveled to school, with friends, and even as adults have placed permanent […]

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Dos and Don’ts (May Edition)

Can you believe that we are already 5 months into 2018?  Which means it’s time for another edition of “Dos and Don’ts.” Please check out prior months HERE.  Also, if you have a “Do or Don’t” that you think we should hear please feel free to send them my way at toja@itoja.com.  You never know […]

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What are you doing for YOU?

I’m at a point in my life where I feel like my life is in total chaos.  I’m overwhelmed, overworked, and slowly running out of energy. I’m working two jobs, only because I want to, while also preparing to move, planning a wedding, and running here and there. I tend to stay up late trying […]

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Delayed but not Denied!

In my opinion, one of the worst things that we can do, at any age, is to believe that something will not or cannot happen to us.  These “things” either being negative or positive.  For example, a person thinking that they will never be pulled over by the police or a person believing they will […]

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Snoop Dogg’s Bible of Love

When I first learned that the once gangsta rapper was putting out a gospel CD I was one of those people who laughed and ask if this was really real.  Someone pinch me please!  I honestly didn’t know if I could take the songs on his CD seriously.  I mean we were talking about the […]

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Superpowers!

If I asked you what your superpowers were, what would you say? Would it take you a moment to answer or would the answer to this question come rather quickly to you? For many we have to think about our answer.  Or we would name powers that we wish we had instead of powers that we know we […]

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Take me back, Dear Lord!

I miss the black church. But I don’t miss the drama. I miss the black singing, Spring revivals, choir rehearsals, conventions, and youth meetings. But again, I don’t miss the drama. I miss when the anointing would be so high you could barely get through the announcements.  Members shouting, drums beating, tambourines beating against the […]

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Bridal/Formal Dress Shopping 101

Most people become engaged between November and February; you know the given Holiday season where couples are with family and friends.  Those Holidays being Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine’s Day.  Then right after Valentine’s day teenagers are fighting to get into a formal dress store to purchase their Winter dance dress and/or Spring prom […]

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Watch me Shimmer!

Monday’s sure do come around fast but it’s nothing that we can’t handle, right? I wanted to take a minute to share with you some good news I received yesterday.  I received notification that my blog, 5 ways of making the most out of Twitter was being featured on Janice Wald’s Mostly Blogging Inspire Me […]

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Dos & Don’ts (April Edition)

Who’s ready for another exciting month of Dos & Don’ts?  If you’re not ready, you should probably get ready because its that time again and we’re coming at you full speed!  But before we get started, I believe I can officially say, Happy Spring!  With that being said, be sure to get those pedicures done before […]

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Q&A: Are you addicted to Labels?

Q:  I think I’m addicted to designer labels.  From Ferragamo, to Chanel, Tom Ford, Burberry, and Gucci; to name a few.  I did manage to go 62 days without shopping or buying clothes, but I recently messed up.  My girlfriend said she thinks my addiction stems from not having any kids and that’s how I […]

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The Days of our Lives

Here I am in my late 30’s and suddenly I feel like time is just moving too fast.  For years it seemed like I’ve rushed life away.  I’ve been a little girl, desperately wanting to be a teenager.  Then once I became a teenager my 20’s couldn’t get here soon enough.  Now that I’m in […]

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