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I’m Wishing on a Dream…

In today’s post, I want you–yes you–to take a deep breath, close your eyes, and just day-dream for a minute or two.  Let your imagination take you on a journey that perhaps you haven’t traveled along in many years. One thing I love about children, they never forfeit the opportunity to imagine or daydream.  They […]

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Dos and Don’ts (June Edition)

Hey guys! For a second I thought we weren’t going to have the June edition of Dos and Don’t due to my partner, Shana (who collabs with me for this specific segment of Itoja) being busy and enjoying herself on vacation. But like always she has come through and has yet to let us down. She’s […]

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How “woke” are you?

“The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.” ~ Malcolm X Just how “woke” are you?  The term “being woke” stems from the ideology of being aware and informed from a sociological aspect.  […]

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The Purge by way of Poshmark!

Back in January I started my journey of letting go.  But this letting go was a little different than usual.  This letting go required me to face reality and my closet.  For a woman this can be dramatic.  We all keep things entirely too long.  We’ll buy a pair of shoes and wear them once and they will never […]

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I’m Guilty……..and loving it.

As I carefully sip my Lime Spritzer…… I’m guilty of : Eating in Bed. Staying up too late and then oversleeping. Missing a month of working out. Having 30 bottles of wine (I’m working on my collection). Browsing the internet at work. Being too hard on myself at times. Binge watching TV Shows. Skipping meals. […]

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Waterworks

Every year we take my grandmother to the casino for a ladies weekend trip.  My grandmother, my mother, two aunts, my sister, and of course, yours truly: ME!  Going to the casino is one of my grandmothers favorite things to do.  So we always make sure she gets to enjoy that at least once a […]

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Dear Momma

In a world of dismay and uncertainty, our mothers are our backbone and strength.  They are able to bring us laughter and joy and direction when needed. From the day we are born they’ve nurtured and protected us.  Their daily prayers as we’ve traveled to school, with friends, and even as adults have placed permanent […]

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Dos and Don’ts (May Edition)

Can you believe that we are already 5 months into 2018?  Which means it’s time for another edition of “Dos and Don’ts.” Please check out prior months HERE.  Also, if you have a “Do or Don’t” that you think we should hear please feel free to send them my way at toja@itoja.com.  You never know […]

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What are you doing for YOU?

I’m at a point in my life where I feel like my life is in total chaos.  I’m overwhelmed, overworked, and slowly running out of energy. I’m working two jobs, only because I want to, while also preparing to move, planning a wedding, and running here and there. I tend to stay up late trying […]

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Delayed but not Denied!

In my opinion, one of the worst things that we can do, at any age, is to believe that something will not or cannot happen to us.  These “things” either being negative or positive.  For example, a person thinking that they will never be pulled over by the police or a person believing they will […]

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Snoop Dogg’s Bible of Love

When I first learned that the once gangsta rapper was putting out a gospel CD I was one of those people who laughed and ask if this was really real.  Someone pinch me please!  I honestly didn’t know if I could take the songs on his CD seriously.  I mean we were talking about the […]

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Superpowers!

If I asked you what your superpowers were, what would you say? Would it take you a moment to answer or would the answer to this question come rather quickly to you? For many we have to think about our answer.  Or we would name powers that we wish we had instead of powers that we know we […]

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Take me back, Dear Lord!

I miss the black church. But I don’t miss the drama. I miss the black singing, Spring revivals, choir rehearsals, conventions, and youth meetings. But again, I don’t miss the drama. I miss when the anointing would be so high you could barely get through the announcements.  Members shouting, drums beating, tambourines beating against the […]

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Bridal/Formal Dress Shopping 101

Most people become engaged between November and February; you know the given Holiday season where couples are with family and friends.  Those Holidays being Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine’s Day.  Then right after Valentine’s day teenagers are fighting to get into a formal dress store to purchase their Winter dance dress and/or Spring prom […]

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Watch me Shimmer!

Monday’s sure do come around fast but it’s nothing that we can’t handle, right? I wanted to take a minute to share with you some good news I received yesterday.  I received notification that my blog, 5 ways of making the most out of Twitter was being featured on Janice Wald’s Mostly Blogging Inspire Me […]

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Dos & Don’ts (April Edition)

Who’s ready for another exciting month of Dos & Don’ts?  If you’re not ready, you should probably get ready because its that time again and we’re coming at you full speed!  But before we get started, I believe I can officially say, Happy Spring!  With that being said, be sure to get those pedicures done before […]

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Have you cut the cord?

Hey Friends!!! Today’s question is brought to you by whatever streaming service that is out seeking your patronage.  Streaming TV seems to be the new “IT” thing to do. I know for me, I was interested in saving money on my cable bill, however, I wasn’t really sure which route to go.  I didn’t have […]

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Q&A: Are you addicted to Labels?

Q:  I think I’m addicted to designer labels.  From Ferragamo, to Chanel, Tom Ford, Burberry, and Gucci; to name a few.  I did manage to go 62 days without shopping or buying clothes, but I recently messed up.  My girlfriend said she thinks my addiction stems from not having any kids and that’s how I […]

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My Top 5 Mystery Podcast

Below you will find my Top 5 Mystery Podcast that I think YOU ALL will love.  There’s so much drama and suspense detailed in these podcast that I literally could not wait to listen to the next episode.  My thoughts and opinions on who did what, when, and where, kept changing.  I couldn’t believe that […]

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The Days of our Lives

Here I am in my late 30’s and suddenly I feel like time is just moving too fast.  For years it seemed like I’ve rushed life away.  I’ve been a little girl, desperately wanting to be a teenager.  Then once I became a teenager my 20’s couldn’t get here soon enough.  Now that I’m in […]

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I’d rather be…

I’m loving this weeks photo challenge!  When asked “what would you rather be doing right now,” …my answer will always be; Traveling! If I could be a little more clearer, I’d rather be traveling on a cruise ship!  For me, nothing can top this.  It’s the best way to travel, the best way to unwind, […]

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5 reasons to read “The Face of Expression” By Aaron Woodson

As you all know I’m always eager to highlight up and coming Entrepreneur’s around the world to my readers.  With that being said, this months Entrepreneur Spritzer is all about the new book, TheFace of Expression by Aaron Woodson.  If you’re not familiar with my Spritzer you can get caught up HERE!! 5 reason why you most certainly need to […]

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Apparently, I’m just a text away!?

Everything I do, exist of me being on my phone.  From paying bills, to emailing, to social media, shopping….everything.  But apparently, I’m a HUGE texter.  My cell phone provider sent me an email breaking down my usage for 2017. I was blown away! 80k text? Are you kidding me?  That’s over 6k text a month, […]

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Today, my curls are popping!

Before we touch on my curls today, let me just say that my hair has been the topic of many discussions.  People are constantly asking me where did I get my hair from?  What are you mixed with?  Honestly, I DO NOT KNOW.  But I will find out soon and when I do I will […]

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Dos and Don’ts (March Edition)

Well, well, well! Your favorite blogger is back with your favorite segment of IToja which is the monthly edition of Dos and Don’ts!!! If you need to catch up the previous issues, please catch the 411 HERE for January and HERE for February! All aboard? Lets go! Shana:  Don’t pay full price for anything.  There […]

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Pray by Sam Smith

Anyone familiar with the English singer/song-writer, Sam Smith and his latest song, Pray? It is a song that I play at least 8 times a day.  Usually back to back. I love how he goes from a deep tenor tone to a high falsetto (his voice is magical) as what appears to be a choir […]

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Is meat really killing us?

I have a dilemma.  We have a dilemma. Over the weekend, a dear friend of mine who lives in Texas was out and about.  Like many of us, sometimes it’s just easier to grab food while you’re out.  It was convenient so that’s what she did. I’ll just speak for myself and say that I […]

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My heart is in pieces #Parkland

Last night I sat in bed and just scrolled my Twitter timeline and read all the text from students who sent “I love you” text to family and friends. Not because it was Valentine’s Day, but because their school was under attack.  They were living in the moment of a mass shooter running through their […]

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I’ll always love you! [RIP CLT JR]

Today’s mood is melancholy.  I cry internally over the lost of my uncle frequently but especially today because it’s his birthday.  Two years ago today, he laid in a hospital bed with little response.  Suffering from pneumonia and lack of oxygen that he would never recover from.  A few weeks later he passed away.  Sometimes, […]

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Drinking all the “Waters”

She is fearless and fierce.  She is persuasive and potent.  She is unapologetic and unmovable.  She’s a mix of old school and new school.  She advocates for the unqualified, the poor, and for women’s rights.  She is a Trojan for all black people.  

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