I hate when this happens….Thick girl problems!Read More My Thick Girl Woes
I’m at a point in my life where I feel like my life is in total chaos. I’m overwhelmed, overworked, and slowly running out of energy. I’m working two jobs, only because I want to, while also preparing to move, planning a wedding, and running here and there. I tend to stay up late trying […]Read More What are you doing for YOU?
In my opinion, one of the worst things that we can do, at any age, is to believe that something will not or cannot happen to us. These “things” either being negative or positive. For example, a person thinking that they will never be pulled over by the police or a person believing they will […]Read More Delayed but not Denied!
When I first learned that the once gangsta rapper was putting out a gospel CD I was one of those people who laughed and ask if this was really real. Someone pinch me please! I honestly didn’t know if I could take the songs on his CD seriously. I mean we were talking about the […]Read More Snoop Dogg’s Bible of Love
If I asked you what your superpowers were, what would you say? Would it take you a moment to answer or would the answer to this question come rather quickly to you? For many we have to think about our answer. Or we would name powers that we wish we had instead of powers that we know we […]Read More Superpowers!
Happy Monday! Today, I’m sharing a post from Happy Haute Home. If you love all things house related she is the one to follow. Today she shares a home in Virginia (my neck of the woods) that Martin Lawrence is selling. I didn’t even know he had a home in Virginia. My question here is, […]Read More Martin Lawrence is Selling Massive Virginia Ranch — Happy Haute Home
I miss the black church. But I don’t miss the drama. I miss the black singing, Spring revivals, choir rehearsals, conventions, and youth meetings. But again, I don’t miss the drama. I miss when the anointing would be so high you could barely get through the announcements. Members shouting, drums beating, tambourines beating against the […]Read More Take me back, Dear Lord!
Most people become engaged between November and February; you know the given Holiday season where couples are with family and friends. Those Holidays being Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine’s Day. Then right after Valentine’s day teenagers are fighting to get into a formal dress store to purchase their Winter dance dress and/or Spring prom […]Read More Bridal/Formal Dress Shopping 101
Monday’s sure do come around fast but it’s nothing that we can’t handle, right? I wanted to take a minute to share with you some good news I received yesterday. I received notification that my blog, 5 ways of making the most out of Twitter was being featured on Janice Wald’s Mostly Blogging Inspire Me […]Read More Watch me Shimmer!
Who’s ready for another exciting month of Dos & Don’ts? If you’re not ready, you should probably get ready because its that time again and we’re coming at you full speed! But before we get started, I believe I can officially say, Happy Spring! With that being said, be sure to get those pedicures done before […]Read More Dos & Don’ts (April Edition)
Hey Friends!!! Today’s question is brought to you by whatever streaming service that is out seeking your patronage. Streaming TV seems to be the new “IT” thing to do. I know for me, I was interested in saving money on my cable bill, however, I wasn’t really sure which route to go. I didn’t have […]Read More Have you cut the cord?
For centuries, it was unheard of, that black people would go to a therapy session. Or to see a shrink as some would like to put it. The black communities therapist was the prayer line or going to talk to your pastor about your problems; but what was so wrong about going to see a […]Read More The Black community needs therapy too!
Long gone are the days of AOL Instant Messenger. Can you believe AOL was launched in 1997? I remember having to use dial-up to access the internet and also waiting for my sister to get off the landline telephone so that I could even use the dial-up, which was crazy in itself. This all seem […]Read More 5 ways to make the most out of Twitter
Q: I think I’m addicted to designer labels. From Ferragamo, to Chanel, Tom Ford, Burberry, and Gucci; to name a few. I did manage to go 62 days without shopping or buying clothes, but I recently messed up. My girlfriend said she thinks my addiction stems from not having any kids and that’s how I […]Read More Q&A: Are you addicted to Labels?
Below you will find my Top 5 Mystery Podcast that I think YOU ALL will love. There’s so much drama and suspense detailed in these podcast that I literally could not wait to listen to the next episode. My thoughts and opinions on who did what, when, and where, kept changing. I couldn’t believe that […]Read More My Top 5 Mystery Podcast
Here I am in my late 30’s and suddenly I feel like time is just moving too fast. For years it seemed like I’ve rushed life away. I’ve been a little girl, desperately wanting to be a teenager. Then once I became a teenager my 20’s couldn’t get here soon enough. Now that I’m in […]Read More The Days of our Lives
I’m loving this weeks photo challenge! When asked “what would you rather be doing right now,” …my answer will always be; Traveling! If I could be a little more clearer, I’d rather be traveling on a cruise ship! For me, nothing can top this. It’s the best way to travel, the best way to unwind, […]Read More I’d rather be…
As you all know I’m always eager to highlight up and coming Entrepreneur’s around the world to my readers. With that being said, this months Entrepreneur Spritzer is all about the new book, TheFace of Expression by Aaron Woodson. If you’re not familiar with my Spritzer you can get caught up HERE!! 5 reason why you most certainly need to […]Read More 5 reasons to read “The Face of Expression” By Aaron Woodson
A few years ago, I was introduced to a non-fiction book called, The Moth. You can find it HERE. The Moth was a book of short stories that were told in their truest form around the world by individuals in a live group setting. It was called The Moth because every time they would get […]Read More The Moth: The Traveling Sandwiches
Once upon a time (like in 2016), I lived life as the Rich and Famous. Even though it was only for a few hours….I lived it and I LOVED IT!! I could truly be a Hollywood type of girl, living in Beverly Hills…but I would want to be behind the scenes and just living my […]Read More Beverly Hills: Telling a story via Pictures
Everything I do, exist of me being on my phone. From paying bills, to emailing, to social media, shopping….everything. But apparently, I’m a HUGE texter. My cell phone provider sent me an email breaking down my usage for 2017. I was blown away! 80k text? Are you kidding me? That’s over 6k text a month, […]Read More Apparently, I’m just a text away!?
Before we touch on my curls today, let me just say that my hair has been the topic of many discussions. People are constantly asking me where did I get my hair from? What are you mixed with? Honestly, I DO NOT KNOW. But I will find out soon and when I do I will […]Read More Today, my curls are popping!
I received these roses for Valentine’s Day. Of course they were beautiful at first glace. Two weeks later and they were still trying their best to hold on. The water was getting lower and with any flower, the leaves started to turn and die. After a few days of neglect I noticed even more beauty. […]Read More Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder
Well, well, well! Your favorite blogger is back with your favorite segment of IToja which is the monthly edition of Dos and Don’ts!!! If you need to catch up the previous issues, please catch the 411 HERE for January and HERE for February! All aboard? Lets go! Shana: Don’t pay full price for anything. There […]Read More Dos and Don’ts (March Edition)
As kids, boys and girls are raised a little different from one another. Girls are given kitchenettes and baby dolls. They begin an imaginary life of what they want when they get married and how they want it. They immediately begin playing house. While boys are given power tools and things to build. They are […]Read More A peep inside Marriage
Anyone familiar with the English singer/song-writer, Sam Smith and his latest song, Pray? It is a song that I play at least 8 times a day. Usually back to back. I love how he goes from a deep tenor tone to a high falsetto (his voice is magical) as what appears to be a choir […]Read More Pray by Sam Smith
Dating is hard. Let’s just put that out there. It is even harder when you are young. To me, it’s hard because you’re still trying to figure out who you are as a person. You’re still trying to learn to love yourself while also figuring out where life will take you. Adding another person into the mix, to love and to […]Read More Dating Military: Long Distance vs PTSD
I have a dilemma. We have a dilemma. Over the weekend, a dear friend of mine who lives in Texas was out and about. Like many of us, sometimes it’s just easier to grab food while you’re out. It was convenient so that’s what she did. I’ll just speak for myself and say that I […]Read More Is meat really killing us?
Hello World. Today in Black History, lets talk about the 44th President of the United States of America. Excuse me, the FIRST BLACK President of the United States of America. Barack Obama I remember like it was yesterday, the night he won the election and the day of the inauguration back in 2008. African-Americans really thought that we had […]Read More From the Southside of Chicago to the White House: OBAMA
Last night I sat in bed and just scrolled my Twitter timeline and read all the text from students who sent “I love you” text to family and friends. Not because it was Valentine’s Day, but because their school was under attack. They were living in the moment of a mass shooter running through their […]Read More My heart is in pieces #Parkland
Happy Valentine’s Day to all the lovers across the world! You guys have shown me so much love in the few months that I’ve been blogging and I cannot be more grateful. If the below picture has your country shaded with any color……I THANK YOU! This map tells me where my readers are. The difference […]Read More V Day 2/14/18
You all know how busy my life is. I’m sure yours is just as busy. So follow me on this quick steak dinner guide to serve up the perfect meal for your special someone for Valentine’s Day this year. It’s even more perfect because this day of love falls on a weekday and no one has time to spend […]Read More The perfect Valentine’s dinner in 30 min or less
Today’s mood is melancholy. I cry internally over the lost of my uncle frequently but especially today because it’s his birthday. Two years ago today, he laid in a hospital bed with little response. Suffering from pneumonia and lack of oxygen that he would never recover from. A few weeks later he passed away. Sometimes, […]Read More I’ll always love you! [RIP CLT JR]
She is fearless and fierce. She is persuasive and potent. She is unapologetic and unmovable. She’s a mix of old school and new school. She advocates for the unqualified, the poor, and for women’s rights. She is a Trojan for all black people.Read More Drinking all the “Waters”
One of the vision’s I had for my blog when I first started was that it would be “Our” blog; I always suggest that my readers give me feedback on what they want to read. With that being said, I received a suggestion to do a blog about that special someone who was once in […]Read More Did the “one” get away?
I promise I want hold you long. I know it’s Super Bowl Sunday and that you have things to do. Yes, I do too! So real quick. I just have this one question. Because in life we celebrate every occasion with food. So today’s question is……. Do you prefer Flats or the Drum when you […]Read More Super Bowl Sunday: Question of the Day
Our monthly Dos and Don’ts are off to a great start. We’ve received amazing views and feedback thus far. Thank you! We are two months down and 10 more months to go; but who’s counting! To find out what the monthly Dos and Don’ts are all about click HERE. In short, think of it as, every […]Read More Dos and Don’ts (Feb Edition)
It’s officially Black History Month, and I want to change things up, so I feel its only right to begin with a new card gamed titled “Black Card Revoked!” Find it HERE. So in this game, you can pretty much play however you feel fit. Because the instructions are clearly typed saying, I know you […]Read More Black Card Revoked!
Hello Readers! Welcome to the month of February. This month we will be focusing on Black History Month, Love & Relationships (it is love month right? 2/14), and we will have our monthly edition of Dos & Don’ts. I’m sure there will be some random blog post here and there as well. So be sure […]Read More Hello February!
I remember growing up as a young girl and hearing my late great Granny praying and saying, “Lord, send us a snow storm to clean the air!” She was a Godly woman and prayed for just about everything. At the time I was a little confused as to how the snow would exactly “clean” the […]Read More Lord, we need a blizzard and not the kind you eat!
Hey guys! Another quick weekend has flown by. Weekends are just too short for me and for the most part they are always really busy. In fact, my life is just busy, but I really wouldn’t have it any other way. The only thing I would change is if every Monday was the new Sunday. […]Read More I wish Monday was the new Sunday!
After reading the topic for this week’s photo challenge immediately two things came to mind. I debated on which direction to go because I have a hard time making decisions. Did I want to go the traditional black girl hair theme? Because we all know that black women run through hair styles as if time […]Read More Photo Challenge: How many ways?
Over the years, I’ve learned that friends come in many forms. The reserved one, the honest one, the listener, the BFF, the acquaintance, the friend who doesn’t like any of your other friends, the annoying friend, the negative friend, the THOT friend, the fighting friend, the go-getter friend, the party friend…..you get my drift? Then […]Read More What about your friends?
Buttery soft leggings! Where have you been all my life? I’m finding myself wearing these LuLaRoe leggings more and more throughout the week. I wish you could feel the softness of these leggings through this blog. If you are not familiar with LuLaRoe it is a direct sales company and a great way to support entrepreneurs […]Read More LuLaRoe Spritzer
Today, at work, I’m listening to a Ted Talk Daily podcast by Bryan Stevenson and it was on of those podcast that I felt like I had to share with all of you. I don’t want to quote the entire podcast word for word, because I feel I would not be able to do it […]Read More “Keep your eye on the prize”