**First let me say that this doesn’t apply to all men. But to the men whose shoes clearly fit and can walk in and all around this truth, please take heed!**
As you read the words below think about these two questions:
How do we save our black men?
How do we place them back in the homes to be providers for their families?
In the year of 2017, we have more young black men not working, and not taking care of their children; more young black men are being killed, and more black men are being put behind bars. Leaving our young black boys to grow up in a single parent home.
Part of my beef is with the justice system. You may ask, what does this have to do with black brothers? Well our black brothers keep putting themselves in the predicament of having to be involved with the justice system and I think we all know that the system is failing black and brown people. More black men are put behind bars; unfairly and unlawfully. The facts have remained the same for decades; the justice system gives black and brown men longer sentence times as well as placing more innocent black men behind bars. Black men make up about 13% of the population but 35% of men are in jail and 37% in prison as of 2014. Why is this? And why must our black men keep putting their lives in the hands of the justice system?
Take for instance the recent Meek Mill case. For those of you who are unaware of who Meek Mill is, he is an American rapper/songwriter. He’s had some run-ins with the law several years back. Yes, the typical drug and gun charges. But recently he was arrested for violating probation. Um, he was popping wheelies on his bike. Yup, you read it right! They sentenced him to 2-4 years in prison. You tell me how unfair and excessive this is? Especially when we have white men gliding through the justice system like they are on the Olympic skate team.
Here’s another example. You may recall the Stanford case where the white man who was attending the college allegedly raped a schoolmate behind a dumpster after partying and drinking. After trial, he was only given a 6 month jail sentence, but lucky him, he was released after 3 months. Three freaking months!!!! They painted him as the great swimmer and serving a long sentence time would ruin his reputation. On the flip side, when a black man was allegedly accused of rape at Vanderbilt, who was also in college during this time, he was given a minimum sentence of 15-25 years. How Sway? You know, if you do the crime, you should definitely do the time. But why is there a huge margin of difference when it comes to white males and black males?
Another part of my beef is with black men not wanting to work AND not wanting to take care of their children. I’m not sure how we, as a culture, spearheaded a lazy generation of men. Everyone wants the quick come up. The easy way out. But trying to live that fast life is not ideal. You’re only going to end up in two places. In jail, where the justice system will not be on your side (like we’ve already discussed) or you will be in the cold ground. We are losing too many men to gun violence. It’s one thing not to value your own life but to take someone else’s life just because you are in your feelings is a low down dirty shame!
Women have been forced to step up and sacrifice on all levels. I am annoyed that so many men feel like it’s not their responsibility, their obligation, their priority, to be there for their kids. Then you want to be mad at the woman when she’s ignoring you or going to the courthouse on you. Mad because you have to give up $20! That can’t even get you two meals at your local drive thru. I learned a long time ago that the truth always hurt. You can’t be mad when a woman shuts you down and makes you feel really small when she’s only stating the truth. At what point are we going to stop making the same mistakes over and over and over? When situations arise, we should be able to run to the fathers, uncles, and grandfathers for their support and guidance. But mothers and grandmothers have been standing in that gap for as long as I can recall. Women are independent because we have to be independent, not necessarily because we want to be independent. What happened to setting examples for the younger generations that will come after you? What happened to being there for your children; you know the ones you laid down to make?
It’s also a shame when mothers enable their no-good sons and don’t stress the importance of being responsible for their children. We have to stop raising weak men and start raising strong, responsible, and providing men. If you need this in a more simple form…..basically we need men to stop acting like boys and man up!
I don’t want my nephews to grow up and be a part of any of these statistics or realities. I want all black men to live a long and prosperous life. But you have to stop going to jail. You have to stop getting killed. We need you in the home, taking care of your family, and being a valuable asset to our community and families.
So I ask these questions in addition to the two at the beginning of the blog;
What can we do to change this?
What do our black men need from us?
Men, would you want your daughter to date a guy like yourself?