Recently, in mainstream media, most of you have heard about Jada Pinkett-Smith discussing her relationship with her husband, Will Smith; along with conversations around her children, her Bonus child, and his mother. If you are like me, you may even tune in occasionally to her Red Table Talk show that airs on Facebook Live.
Let me be the first to say that I commend Jada for her candid conversations around marriage, kids, life, and blended families. They are definitely needed and most often they are also very eye-opening.
With that being said, I wanted to take a moment to briefly talk about a recent interview that Jada did on Sway In the Morning radio show. She stated that because Will had a child prior to their marriage that she allows/is okay with Will, Trey (Will’s son by another woman) and Trey’s mother going on vacation together. Social media went into a frenzy with views all over the spectrum. Many people stating that they weren’t that mature to allow such thing to happen.
I want to be clear and upfront to my readers and to those who may be around my age–late 30’s–and say this has nothing to do with maturity. It really has nothing to do with trust. Do not feel bad or feel like you need to get on their level. A person’s opinion is their opinion, and mine is certainly mine, but do not feel like you need to get in line with this couple.
People have to learn to take their marriage seriously and you shouldn’t invite additional people into your union. Where is the respect for the spouse? If you open a window eventually something will fly in. I am all for blending families. I recently posted about how to Embrace your Blended Family just this past Fathers Day. Click HERE to read more about it!
But telling my husband to go on vacation with your child who is in his 20’s (or any age for that matter) along with his mother so that he can get the dynamics of both mother and father is uncalled for. Why would you even put that spirit out there?
I’m happy to go on a day trip with everyone to an amusement park. I will love for us to all be together at graduations and birthdays. But a vacation where you’re going to be acting like a married couple? Miss me with that one!! I think you should have a relationship with the child’s mother/father but a vacation–not so much.
I wonder if Will would allow Jada to do the same thing if she had a child with another man prior to them? I highly doubt it!!
Keep blending your families but know you MUST draw the line somewhere! Whether you agree or disagree with me, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.
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