I’ve found that your 30’s mostly consist of building and planning. Whether you are building your finances, your relationships, your career, or family, you’re essentially working off a blueprint to create the next 40-50 years of your life.
You may ask how or why did I come up with this theory. Well, in your 20’s typically you’re finishing college. Perhaps still living with your parents or maybe even venturing off into your own thing but there’s a lot of trial and error during this period. A person has probably taken on minor responsibilities here and there but they are still under their parents umbrella. In your 20’s you are learning the ins and out of life and usually the hard way.
Here we are in our 30’s, the time is now that we begin to save our money. It is now that we get our 401k’s in line, that we set up our Roth IRA’s and establish ourselves. We should also be using our 30’s to work on our relationships with our children and our mates. I believe that everything we do now will prepare us for our future and it will also eliminate unnecessary hardships down the road.
“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”-Benjamin Franklin
If I just speak for myself, it seems as if there is always something popping up out of the blue. For some reason I feel like I’m creating more and more bills. Of course, we can’t stop “life” from happening or stop those bills from rolling in. But if we carefully plan and build now, then later down the road an unexpected bill or emergency won’t seem like a brick has just been thrown through a window.
The point that I’m trying to make here is that I want those of you in your 30’s to stop being so hard on yourself. Let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with evolving and striving to reach goals. However, I want us to realize that if we don’t get a particular job, that it’s okay. If we are driving the latest vehicle on the roads, that’s okay as well. Let’s stop trying to live and operate on a level that we may not be ready to handle yet. Let’s stop feeling bad for ourselves and let’s learn to be grateful.
In your forties, one is becoming more and more established. They’ve worked on the career, the finances,the relationships, or what have you, and are able to really begin to enjoy life just a little bit more. We will get to where we should be when it’s our time. It takes time and diligence to build anything in life. Let’s use these years wisely.